Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. If you dont mean it, its best to keep silent. On the other hand, how does sugar coating work for you? Have you ever said something that you did not mean? Isnt it great that kids are honest and straight forward, and everyone gets their point? Well, sometimes they might be a little too honest, but overall, I would prefer that over fake and superficial statements. I have learned to say only things I mean and so can you! Please take a look!