Frustrated Husband Kept Spreadsheet Detailing Wife's Excuses For Not Having Sex

MichaelKolander by MichaelKolander on Jul. 21, 2014

With the possible exception of castration and kids, nothing kills a perfectly good sex life faster than marriage. That's something that frustrated men (and probably women) know all too well. But one under-sexed husband decided to take drastic action (at least by first-world standards) and began logging all of his wife's sexual refusals in a spreadsheet, complete with the dates and reasons she refused. He then emailed her the spreadsheet when she was about to leave on a ten day business trip.

In case you're wondering how we know all this, it's because the wife posted it to Reddit.

Yesterday morning, while in a taxi on the way to the airport, Husband sends a message to my work email which is connected to my phone. He's never done this, we always communicate in person or by text. I open it up, and it's a sarcastic diatribe basically saying he won't miss me for the 10 days I'm gone. Attached is a SPREADSHEET of all the times he has tried to initiate sex since June 1st, with a column for my "excuses", using verbatim quotes of why I didn't feel like having sex at that very moment. According to his 'document', we've only had sex 3 times in the last 7 weeks, out of 27 "attempts" on his part.

Yikes! Three times in seven weeks? That's not good.

Since the post was made, many people are calling the husband's actions "passive aggressive." Granted, there may be extenuating circumstance as to why the wife doesn't want to have sex (the husband may be an asshole). And this guy clearly could have handled it better than sending it along in an email. But in all fairness, it's not passive aggressive. In fact, it's completely direct. He pointed out that they weren't having sex, and provided evidence. If he wanted to go the passive aggressive route, he would have just left the toilet seat up for the next thirty years and developed a secret massage parlor habit. (Source)